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Common situations where mediation is useful  include :


  • divorce and separation, especially where children are involved and there is a need of ongoing coparenting.  Whether parents are married or not, separation and divorce bring important and difficult changes to a family structure and children are usually the most affected, even if they cannot make any decisions.  Children are greatly affected by contentious situations between their parents, often feel responsible and are troubled by feelings of loyalty or disloyalty,
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  • Marital mediation, where couples find themselves frequently in conflict and are not determined to separate or divorce. This is different from therapy for couples and is not intended as a replacement.  But sometimes 3 to 5 sessions of mediation can help couples listen better to each other, uncover conflicting needs and interests and work towards concrete positive means to improve the way their differences are resolved.

  • Parent - youth conflicts.  Parenting is not an easy task and it is sometimes difficult to understand the changes children are going through and why they behave the way they do.  Again, this is not intended to replace family counselling.  But a few mediation sessions help open up communication channels, and help those involved find more constructive ways to communicate and negotiate different opinions and understand common interests and goals.
     
  • Extended family situations where decisions are necessary and family members are in conflict about what to do.   If family members are willing to come together mediation can assist in ensuring that all members are heard, alternatives are explored and evaluated and a satisfactory way forward is agreed.  Mediation can help family members who have avoided each other or those difficult conversations for many years to come together in a more constructive dialogue.

  • Neighbor disputes: in situations where neighbors do not see eye to eye, close proximity can cause ongoing tensions, stress and bad feelings, which can even lead to costly legal disputes or negative retaliatory actions.  A mediated discussion between or among the parties involved can help improve the dialogue among the parties, the understanding of why they behave as they do or what the impact is on the other parties, identify common interests and goals, and improve the ongoing relationship.


  • Workplace Conflict; Similarly to neighbor or family disputes, conflict between people who must continue to work closely together can result in stress and tension, a negative work environment and have a serious impact on the productivity of a business.  

When is mediation useful?.

Mediation led by a person experienced in managing communication in a conflict situation can be useful wherever there is conflict that is not resulting in constructive change.  Most people do not like conflict, do not handle conflict situations well, or simply try to avoid them as much as possible.


Conflict is all around us and often indicates that a change, which in fact could be positive, needs to take place.  Assistance in resolving such a situation can not only relieve the tension of the immediate conflictual situation, but also better prepare people to deal more constructively with the next one.